People Who are Jealous are Unhappy and Insecure
There is a debate among behavioural scientists about the origins of jealousy: Is it inherited or do we develop it? Psychologists E. Aronson and A. Pines believe it is the latter. They developed an extensive 200-item sexual-jealousy questionnaire that was administered to several hundred subjects. Aronson and Pines found that jealous persons reported more overall […]
Speaking with Confidence (the 3V Way)
Many people ask me how they can communicate with more confidence when they speak. They ask if it is a matter of vocabulary choice, of speaking louder, or dressing in a new suit. Today I would like to give some advice on that subject to you my readers. First things first – understand that effective […]
Transfer Worker from China gets Speaking Award
Hello everyone, I would like to share an email I received today from Grace, one of my private coaching clients here in Toronto. (I have her permission to share this.) Before I do I just want to give you a little background on her. She has been transferred here from Shanghai, China, and works for […]
Building Confidence, Building Success
In order to be a success in life you need confidence: that self-trust and self-assurance that guides you through your decisions. You can now remove the self-doubt and learn how to control negative thoughts that you have about yourself, and also deal with outside negativity. Nothing will ever hold you back again after you master […]
How to Communicate Like a Good Manager
Many people want to know how to be a good or a better manager, supervisor or team leader. This is hard to answer sometimes, as it may depend on culture, corporate culture, previous expectations and promises, and company as well as personal values. The main point to remember is to show respect, calmness, and vision […]
How to Negotiate without Compromising Everything
Hello everyone, How do you feel about this word ‘compromise’? Does it have a positive meaning for you, where you say to yourself “okay great, now we both (or all) will win. I love win-win situations”. Or does the word ‘compromise’ have a negative connotation to you, where you think “oh great, now I have […]
Carrying Baggage? Let it go.
We talk about people having baggage, meaning that they have unresolved anger or other negative feelings for something that now affects their current situation. Baggage is simply unhealthy. Have a read: YOU PUT THE DEVIL OUT, BUT DID YOU LET HIM LEAVE HIS BAGS? You got out of a bad relationship because it was bad, […]
Confidently Asking for a Raise in Salary
Asking for a raise can be very uncomfortable, especially if you are a bit shy, new to the company or unsure of your value/worth. Let me give you some hints that have helped me along my career path, and even now during self-employment. 1 – know the industry standards. You have to know what a […]
Want a Raise? Look Better!
Interesting article today from Forbes. Discusses that as you gain weight or just not take care of yourself in general, your salary goes down too. This article specifically notes white women are subject to this type of discrimination. If this is actually true, what can you do? 1 – attitude is everything. Be positive and […]
Can You Laugh at Yourself?
The most confident people are able to laugh. They laugh under stress, they laugh at jokes, even if they are not particularly funny (out of respect for the joke-teller – as long as they are not disrespectful jokes), they laugh at themselves when things go wrong or when ‘Murphy’s Law’ takes over their life for […]