Positive Competitive Behaviour

“There are two types of competitive behavior. One is a sense of competition because you want to be at the top. You create obstacles and harm someone. That competition is negative. But there is a positive kind of competition, which benefits the individual, the competitors, and the economy. Let your competitors also grow, without any […]

Are You Susceptible to Other People’s Opinions?

Kevin Hogan has 3 new articles up this week to help your self-development. 1 – Getting Paid for What You Love 2 – Finding Yourself: Whose Life are You Living Anyway? 3 – SOOP – The Big Obstacle of Success (Susceptible to Opinions of Other People) Interesting stuff. This week only. Click the above title […]

Be Assertive without Being a Jerk! (Real Confidence)

A part of being confident is not giving into aggression – yours or anyone’s. We want to stand up for ourselves, but we don’t want to be pushy, be a bully, unreasonable or be perceived as a jerk. Kevin Hogan’s newsletter offered this excellent advice on being assertive without being aggressive: Do’s and Don’ts of […]

Influence: Being Assertive Without Being a Jerk

Every Monday morning I get Kevin Hogan’s excellent free newsletter delivered in my inbox. This expert on persuasion, communication, body language, wealth etc. has many books, ebooks, Cds, DVDs etc. I have a few of his books/programs and I enjoy reading his articles. His homepage currently has a great article “Influence: Being Assertive without Being […]

How Do You Speak to Yourself?

I know it is a rather odd question, but it is an important one. People like myself who study NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) understand that repeated words and phrases, no matter how innocent or simple they may be, may be interpreted by the brain as a command. Yes, be careful what you say to yourself. Our […]

Dealing with Hot Topics & Current Affairs

To be an effective communicator you have to be able to talk about current affairs and old, unsolvable contraversial debates (think abortion, death penalty, gun control, politics, religion etc.) without offending others, and at the same time without feeling that you have sold yourself out by not voicing your own opinions. To add weight to […]

What is ‘ConfidenceWorld’?

A very famous Life Coach & Business Coach out of the U.K. named Sean McPheat, who was a very big influence on my coaching career when I first started out, has a new website simply called “ConfidenceWorld”. Here you can sign up (no charge) and gain access to 30 articles, newsletters, a 120-page ebook, reports, […]

So, what are the qualities of a good speaker?

Here are a list of the qualities and characteristics of a good public speaker/presenter. Make sure you include these points when you have to speak in public. 1. They talk to us as though we are having a conversation 2. They speak our language 3. They look as though they are enjoying themselves. 4. They […]

When NOT to fight

A couple of weeks ago I was out with a friend for a couple of beers, and on the way home decided to go to the local liquor store and pick up some supplies. It wasn’t that late, but as I came out of the store I was confronted by a person; a beggar, panhandler, […]

How Do We Build Confidence?

This is no simple question. Our confidence is greatly affected by our memories, values, previous decisions and environment. I always tell people that competence is the flip-side of confidence. When you get good at (doing) something, your confidence rises. And likewise when you get more confident at something, you perform better, which raises your competence […]